You are not responsible for anyone else’s actions, thoughts or happiness. I keep having to remind myself of this at the moment and tell myself that whilst I can give advice, I can’t make anyone do the work and I can’t hold myself accountable if they choose to ignore my advice. Basically, I can’t keep feeling guilty for how other people feel, especially if they are taking no action to change their circumstances. Every time I remind myself about this I feel a little lighter and

Last week I talked about setting personal boundaries, and I gave you an overview of the kind of things people, think, feel and do that prevent them from creating and maintaining personal boundaries. Today, let's channel Aretha Franklin and focus on the 4 major mistakes we make when it comes to self-esteem, confidence and self-respect. First, what is self-esteem? Some people think of self-esteem as their inner voice (or self-dialogue) – you know, the voice that tells you wheth

One issue that comes up time after time with clients is how to set and maintain personal boundaries. Quite often it comes up when clients experience huge stress and pressure from an unmanageable workload, constantly changing situations or expectations, the assumption that you will say yes or be able to accommodate every request. This leads to overwhelm and a feeling that you have no control. For others, their issue setting boundaries lies in their personal relationships and t

All change comes with risk. But how do you overcome the self-sabotaging thoughts and actually say yes?